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While you can experience love without lust or lust without love, its possible to experience both at the same time [for the same person], Lehmiller says. If it is the latter, he probably doesnt have genuine feelings for you. This is the number one indication that hes just lusting after you. Enter your account data and we will send you a link to reset your password. We can all agree with that. Studies suggest that the brain in this phase is much like a brain on drugs. Almost everyone has found herself drowning in romantic feelings for a man or woman she cant have either because the object of her affection is in a relationship with someone else or because she herself is (or both). Love, on the other hand, is a much broader concept that includes deeper emotional connection and, usually, a desire to make that relationship last, he says. If Youre Lusting After Someone, You May Be 1 Of These 4 - Bustle Lack of curiosity about their life (Once again, honesty is key here.). It's so much nicer to be involved with someone your gut likes. Hell show up on time for dates, and most importantly, hell always answer your calls or text message when he says he will. 1 Accept that some feelings of lust are normal. Instead, journal about how youre feeling. Love and lust both have their own benefits, but their benefits are different. And often that reason is lust. So if he cant talk about anything other than dirty talk, then he likely sees you as a casual sex buddy and not much more. He only cares about himself, not you. Dont let yourself wallow for too long, but giving yourself a half hour to sit and sulk about your unrequited love may actually help you work through those feelings and move past them. Instead, focus on enjoying the time that you do spend together.